As always it has been awhile, life gets really busy around here as I would assume most house hold usually do. Things have been good around here, we have our good days and well sad to say we have more bad days then good but it is what it is. I thought I would share some things that go on around the Drury home. As all of you know we took in another child back in December, and of course it was a boy, I swear we only get phone calls for boys. Well our little guy had tough first month in our home and when I say tough it was tough for him and Tom and I. For the first month he was having night terrors, he was waking up every 2 to 3 hours screaming and crying. The best way to describe, imagine your child had a night mare, they usually come into your room crying a little to tell you that they are scared or they had a dream that really scared them. Well our little guy would wake up, come into our room screaming and crying about nothing and it would take another 30 to 40 minutes to get him back to sleep. Needless to say the month of December I looked and acted like a zombie, it wasn't pretty. It was hard, because I can't imagine in a little 4 year old mind thinking, taken from his home and put in with complete strangers, taken to what you and I know would not be a good situation but to him the only thing he knows which sounds ok and normal. Lets just say there is a lot of praying going on in this house EVERYDAY! I'm feel like I'm this brand new mom still, I have been a mom for 7 months now, I have had 3 kids a 2 year old, a new born and a 4 year old, non of which I have raised from the beginning. As you can imagine, we have to be quick in this house, we have to figure things out fast with each kiddo, there really is no time for error in this house. But don't get me wrong we make A LOT of errors. Now that we have past the night terrors, from January to now we are into figuring out which is good attention and which is bad attention to receive. He does really good and then all of sudden he has to do something that is against the rules which he knows because he looks at you while he is doing it. There is a lot of defiant that goes on. Some name callings, telling me I don't love you as my mommy, I hate this house, I want to go to my other house stuff like that. All I can do is love him and hope to redirect him to do what is right. I love him so much and it breaks my heart that he had to go through what he had to at this young of age, but by the end of day I'm exhausted, my level of patience is out the door. There are a lot of other behavior issues that we are dealing with, and sometimes I feel like I'm not fully qualified to do this job, to be a foster mom. I'm doing a lot of reading these days, to figure out how to best help this little guy. He is a really smart little boy but has the behavior of a 2 year old because he didn't get the care he need to develop. Our big decision we are having to make right now is whether to take in his brother. For some strange reason he was separated from his 6 year brother and they have no answer for me why. The brother has a lot more issue, he was abuse more and has been living in group homes since the same day my little guy was removed back in December. I'm scared, I don't know if I'm ready for a school age child or ready for a more problem of child. But the other part of me says yes! We can do it, my little guy needs to be reunited with his brother and he shouldn't be in a group home. So some big decision are being made right now, which I will keep you updated.
Our little new born, we had court on the 14th of February and things are looking good for us to adopt him, it's a long process and they have to give these bio parents a chance to come clean and want the child. And so far the parents have been MIA which is good for us because that means they will file for abandonment and will get to adopt him! So our next court date is March 27th and hopefully we will hear some good news!
Someone asked me the other day if I loved being a mom, and I can honestly say I really do! I wouldn't change all the boogers, poopy diapers, the exhaustion, wiping bottoms and all the other things that we do as a mom for anything in the world. I did my time as a working women with good jobs for over 10 years, and now I get to do the best job ever, being a mom and I get to be a mom to kids who really need a mother figure in their life. I know I'm not the best but I know I try and I know that all I can ask of myself.
I hope I didn't sound too negative in this blog post, I just want everyone to know what life is like as a foster parent, because honestly I didn't before I started. Thanks for reading!
